My experiences as a math tutor
Published on November 4, 2004 By Death_By_Beebles In Misc
At my school, which is a K-12 building, we have kids in the higher elementary grades (3-6) who just don’t know their math skills. There is a great need for students who can help teach these children their basic math. I stepped forward to help out.

I’m no math wiz, but I maintain a B to a B+ in my Honors Calculus class, and when my teacher asked if there were any among us that would care to give up a study hall once or twice a week to help kids with their math homework and help with their math facts, I volunteered because I felt a pull to it, as if I was being compelled to help these kids. So, I signed my name on a sheet of paper and waited.

About a week and a half later I was told that the Elementary principal had collected information, and was ready to greet us with a little pizza lunch, which I thought was really cool. We went and talked for a while, and after writing down my study halls, and which ones would be most convenient for me to miss, I was back to my normal lunch.

Fast forward 3 weeks.

I’ve finally been assigned a “Math Buddy.” Actually, I was assigned a math buddy on a Monday, with the request to begin immediately on Tuesdays and Thursdays to go and help my buddy, who for the article, I’ll call Kyle.

Kyle, is almost math illiterate. His higher addition (as in 15+28= higher addition) is suffering, and he’s only learned up to his 5s in multiplication. Kyle is in the 5th grade! By the 3rd grade I knew all my multiplication facts up to 12s because I had a teacher who wouldn’t let us go to recess if we didn’t get all of our multiplication facts done and correct in a certain amount of time. That sort of stimuli isn’t present in our current school system.

There isn’t any personal attention, there isn’t any help other than what I’ve been doing. I’m building from the ground up, at the 5th grade level when he should have been taught this kind of thing in 2nd or 1st grade.

I should say that Kyle is not a stupid child. He might not be a excellent student, and he has a home life that’s less than desirable, but he is not in any way dumb. He thinks reading is boring because no one calls on him to read, and that he doesn’t have any books at home, just an Xbox. He truly appreciates what I’m doing for him, and he likes when I come up to work with him. Not only does he not have his math facts down, he also doesn’t have very many friends. At the 5th grade age, most kids are really cruel, and Kyle has adapted himself so that he is a little tough man. Kyle can’t weigh more than 70 lbs, and be about 4 foot nothing, but he’s a tough little guy. He tells me who he doesn’t like because they try to beat him up.

Every time I talk to him, I feel exacerbated that he hasn’t been taught, that he hasn’t had this information so many times he could do it all in his sleep! Apparently having children come up in front of the class to do some work is a faux pas, because it might “embarrass and/or hurt the child’s feelings if they don’t do it right” Reading out loud might not be a good idea because “the children don’t need that kind of emotional stress.” To be honest, I think it’s a bunch of bullshit.

What the hell is this “No Children Left Behind Act” doing for Kyle anyway? I don’t see it helping to pay for more intensive tutoring and programs for students who are behind in their classes, at least not in my school.

So I’m praying for Kyle... and I’m going to give his tutoring everything I have. I just hope it’s enough.

Peace,

Beebes

Comments
on Nov 05, 2004
Aww...poor kid! What in the heck is wrong with these teachers!! It makes me so mad. I guess that's why my youngest brother(Jacob) had to repeate kindergarten again last school year! So right now he's supposed to be in second grade, but he's only in first. He's not like me or my other younger bother(matthew). The teaching has changed so much since I've been in elementary. It's crazy! I mean Jacob is not dumb....he just doesn't know all of his alphabet. I mean he gets A's on his spelling tests, yet he doesn't know the alphabet. Now that takes skill....to not know your letters, but still manage to get an A on a spelling test! Now that's amazing. It's like, somedays he knows the letters, and other days he doesn't. I try to help him so much. He's been improving. Not awhole lot, but he's getting there. These stupid teachers say they're helping him. W/e. They aren't. If they were, then why doesn't he improve? It makes me so mad! He's supposed to have a reading tutor, but no.....the dumb school hasn't even set that up yet! They just can't take the time to set it up...urgh! So I'm usually helping him read his little baggy books him brings home everynight. Don't get me wrong....I love helping him, but it ticks me off when these stupid teachers at the school aren't helping him! My parents have been to several meetings with the principles, teachers, etc.....they actually think my brother has some form of ADD or ADHD, and maybe a possiblity of him being "slower" than the other "normal" children. He's not friggin slow by any means. He is very intellegent. If these stupid teachers would actually help im. I try to help him the best I can....but i'm no teacher. I know he's not mentally retarded, or slow, or has add, or adhd. Even if that's what they think.....well i think they are full of it!

Ok....whew! I think I've vented now! Sorry about that. Good article Alex. It made me cry though. To just think of all those kids that nobody takes care of at school. It made me cry for Kyle because he does not know his math. It made me cry for all the little kids that are like that. And it made me cry for my brother. I'm proud of what you're doing Alex! Good job!!

I'm gonna keep Kyle, and my brother in my prayers.

~carebear~
on Nov 05, 2004
Thanks, Ash. I wish I could understand how teachers can not teach the material that is completely necessary in these beginning years to a child. A good foundation makes a good house, but it looks like some of these educators can't work with cement at all. (Like my analogy? )

The thing is, I'm seeing it first hand, so it's not like anyone can say, "You are a lying sack of crap, there is no such problem." when I see it convieniently every Tuesday and Thursday. It just pisses me off.

Peace,

Beebes
on Nov 05, 2004
Alex

That was awful nice of you for stepping up and help this kid. These days know teachers are not teaching as good as they use too.. But hopefully when i become a 1or 2 grade teacher i will have my kids to best of their ablitiy and help the ones who need help.. My brother struggled when he started school b.c his kindergarten teacher didn't teach him how to read.. SO my mom had to teach him in 1st grade which put him behind....

I feel so sorry for these kids.. There parents aren't helping with anything.... But the most part is that both parents work full time and don't sit down to do things with them.... But some do my mom did with mee...

I hope that these kids will beable to get the help they need..

stacey
on Nov 05, 2004

Dude, this made mr cry.  I hate to hear about kids being treated badly.....


...you're doing a good thing.  You have the opportunity to be more than a math mentor to him, you can take it further than that and be a life mentor if you want to.  Friendship is a powerful thing for a child, especially the friendship of a older and therefore 'cooler' kid.


If you need anything, help or whatever, will you please drop me a line?  I have kids that age; I'm pretty experienced.


Good luck to the both of you!

on Nov 05, 2004
Thanks dharma, I may have to take you up on that offer sometime. Right now it's a building stage, and I can use all the help and prayers I can get, and in your case an other cases, all the good vibes you can send.

Today I went to Big Lots and got some notecards, a notebook, and some candy. I figure we can both make flash cards together. I'm thinking about having test-like contests, where if he gets all of the multiplication tables of a certain number ie ( 2, 3) right within a certain time limit, there will be a reward of candy or something like that... A positive incentive is always a good thing to work with, and I'm sure he'll enjoy the candy, but I think Kyle understands what will happen if he doesn't learn his math.

Salaam,

Beebes
on Nov 07, 2004
...but I think Kyle understands what will happen if he doesn't learn his math.


Rape, and the pillaging of his home.

I think we all agree that that comment was necessary, but on a more serious note, that's really great what you are doing for him. It seems that he looks forward to his time with you and tells you a good bit of stuff that goes on. I couldn't do it, I know that for sure. Those little buggers get on my nerves WAY too easily and I'm not a good teacher. I'm afraid I'd come across as too condescending, confusing, or just plain confused.

Keep up all your good work, Beebes.
on Nov 07, 2004
Not sure if you were actually implying it in this post, but I don't think you can blame the No Child Left Behind act for the shift in teaching style. For that I think the PC movement is to blame, worrying a little too much about childrens' self-esteem issues and so forth. Not that I don't think that it needs to be considered, but to avoid doing readings or working problems at the board for fear that the child may suffer emotional trauma from it is placing too much weight on the issue. Sure, the kid may be embarrassed when he gets it wrong. More incentive to learn it and get it right the next time, I say. And what if he doesn't get it wrong? How much does he now suffer from the lack of positive reinforcement that he would have received from being publicly acknowledged as correct?

p.s. "exasperate", not "exacerbate." Sorry, had to point it out.
on Nov 07, 2004
Very noble, my friend....you are indeed a helpful person. Now, in response to the current teaching establishement....*##&)#*@&)#@*&$)#@*%&)*#@$&)@!#*&%)#*&#)$*@!&#)@!*&%*#&* those )*#&)#$&#)*%&#%)*&@!)#!&@%&^@^$@(ers for being so )*#$&)#@*$&#@)*&)#*%&#)@*$&#)stupid and not *)#&#@)$*@#&#$)# teaching those kids something...whew....that feels better. I for one am apalled at this, when I was in grade school everyone read and did problems in class. I can't believe that the teachers wouldn't make them read or do stuff on the board...that helps kids learn and also makes it a little less boring when you're actually doing something instead of listening and watching a teacher for at least 5hrs( factoring in recess and lunch).

~Zoo

Keep up the good work Brother!
on Nov 07, 2004
It is really nice to hear about your tutoring beebes, Good vibes for you.
When my elsest was in 5th and 6th grade they did the same with the 2nd and 3rd graders for reading and My son really enjoyed it.
on Nov 07, 2004

Today I went to Big Lots and got some notecards, a notebook, and some candy. I figure we can both make flash cards together. I'm thinking about having test-like contests, where if he gets all of the multiplication tables of a certain number ie ( 2, 3) right within a certain time limit, there will be a reward of candy or something like that... A positive incentive is always a good thing to work with, and I'm sure he'll enjoy the candy, but I think Kyle understands what will happen if he doesn't learn his math.


Well, bless your little heart!  You are doing  a truly wonderful thing!

on Nov 07, 2004
Thank you all for replying.

Not sure if you were actually implying it in this post, but I don't think you can blame the No Child Left Behind act for the shift in teaching style.


I'm not blaming anyone other than the people who haven't been able to teach the things that Kyle hasn't learned. To some degree, I know that it's not totally their fault, but at the same time, I don't think it's good teaching method to worry more about the child's esteem problems instead of worrying about whether he can do his multiplication and addition problems.

I tend to hear a lot of this "No Child Left Behind Act" and how it's supposed to help more children get through high school and graduate. If this act is doing so much, then why haven't I seen any of it in my school system? I know it's probably there, somewhere, but new standardized tests aren't helping Kyle learn math.

Oh, and tanks four teh speeling hepl.

All joking aside, thanks for posting, cita. Political Correctness is... well, blah. I don't want to be politically correct if it means that 5th and 6th graders won't get to learn and know common math.

Peace,

Beebes